I escaped the conference yesterday, and am typing in the dark this morning beside my snoring husband. I can’t see my notes, so let me tell you my impression of the conference:

Trauma impacts the right hemisphere of the brain. Helpful trauma therapy targets the right brain. Left brain cognitions and interpretations don’t have much impact on the right brain. (So said Alan Schore in 500 quotes, yesterday.)

How do we, as therapists, help traumatized people heal? We use our attuned relationship with them to keep them present and socially engaged. If they are socially engaged, now, they’re in a meyelenated ventral vagal state and can’t go dorsal/shut down /immobilized or too ventral/ mobilized/ hypervigilant. Connect. Attune. Not just with your words: "I hear you say that you’re scared." Attune with your body. "I feel your fear in the room." Then help your clients locate that sensation. "Where is it in your body?" Then stay connected with them as they mindfully explore what it’s like to be scared, while connected to you, and tracing the affect through their body. If you’re Pat Ogden, you will have your clients try out the movement that they didn’t get to do when the bad thing happened. (I have a movement tx background and incorporate this in what I do.) If you’re Diana Fosha, you’ll use the power of your connection and your brilliant countertransferential language to do hold the clients in your therapeutic embrace while they move through the trauma. (I use her language all the time – in the moment self-disclosure as containment and dual attention, cool stuff.) If you’re Francine Shapiro, you will make sure that client have a deep, attuned connection with you, while bringing cognitions, affect, and sensations into consciousness, applying periodic eye movements, and deeply connecting during the breaks between, while the clients watch their minds clear the trauma. If you’re Dan Siegel, you’ll teach your clients mindfulness, so that they can get fully present, so that they can socially engage, be present with the trauma, and let it move through with whatever techniques you use. If you’re Bessel van der Kolk, you might do any of the above, and you’ll send them to Yoga class, to become re-embodied.

What are the threads that run through this varied work?

1. Presence. Getting into the here and now experience of body, affect, and thought. That includes clients being inside the Window of Tolerance: not overstimulated, not immobilized (dorsal vagal), not over-mobilized (unmeyelenated ventral vagal). Present and capable of connection so that the work can move through them.

2. Dual Attention: In EMDR, it’s the bilateral stimulation. In Yoga and in Ogden’s work it’s the attention to bodily experience. In Fosha and good relational analytic work it’s the relationship that keeps one mind on the present and the other on the traumatic past.

3. Affect while in relationship: In all of this work, clients have affective experiences while "held" inside the window of tolerance and a therapeutic relationship. It’s not that the affect is "discharged", though it might be. It’s that it is felt; not avoided; witnessed; survived; and transformed into a memory, no longer a developmental catastrophe.

4. Relationship with self and the other: Tolerance for one’s own affect and history. Capacity for relating to others.

You have just read the thesis of my next book, Trauma Therapies. I already had it, and was validated and heartened by what I heard, every moment. The next wave of therapy is Right Brain, Mindful, Affective, Embodied, and Relational.

The husband is up and it's time to go. I'm on vacation for the rest of the week. Imagine me bird and scenery-watching on the California coast, self-regulating with no set schedule. I want to see a Condor, this time.