What we learned about marriage

My husband and I attended a wedding yesterday and, as a gift, wrote a note about what we had learned in our 30-year relationship. We learned from each other, from individual and couple's therapy, and from all the germane trainings and books I've digested over the years. Doug's main point is about differentiation: being and

By |2022-02-04T13:23:07-08:00February 4th, 2022|Comments Off on What we learned about marriage

Differentiation and Integration in The Big Sick, Fun Home, and Trumpet

    In the last three days I've had the pleasure of watching the fabulous movie, The Big Sick, the incredible musical Fun Home, and reading Trumpet, A Novel. All three are great art. The first two are based on the writers' lives. All are about "coming out", or not, to one's self and one's family and

By |2017-07-15T18:29:11-07:00July 15th, 2017|Comments Off on Differentiation and Integration in The Big Sick, Fun Home, and Trumpet

The Names of Love

The Names of Love is a hilarious, serious, heart-breaking, heart-warming French movie that I recommend to everyone. It deals with generational PTSD, Holocaust survivors, war survivors, culture, temperament, politics, art, political correctness, and sex as a positive political tool. (Did I say that it was French?) Here's a website: http://www.namesoflovemovie.com/ One plot line shows a survivor

By |2011-08-15T21:44:22-07:00August 15th, 2011|Comments Off on The Names of Love

The King’s Speech

Some of the best therapy I've seen on screen is in a great new movie, The King's Speech. Geoffrey Rush plays Lionel Logue, an Australian speech therapist who tackles the debilitating anxiety-driven stammer of Colin Firth's, "Bertie", who become the king of England on the eve of World War II.  The film shows the stifling lives

By |2011-01-02T10:29:19-08:00January 2nd, 2011|3 Comments

A Neuroscientist Explains Her Stroke

Check out this amazing 18 minute video suggested by Kelli Sherine:http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/03/13/when-a-brain-scientist-suffers-a-stroke/

By |2008-05-03T21:42:12-07:00May 3rd, 2008|Comments Off on A Neuroscientist Explains Her Stroke

Differentiation in a marriage

I posted this piece on my husband, Doug Plummer's blog last September. Re-reading it, I realized that it was all about differentiation. I'm a great fan of David Schnarch and of Ellyn Bader and Pete Pearson, therapists/trainers/writers who specialize in couple's therapy from a differentiation perspective. They all espouse developmental models for relationships and the

By |2007-01-15T20:24:23-08:00January 15th, 2007|Comments Off on Differentiation in a marriage
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